Friday, October 23, 2009

Trick or Treat


Next week is Halloween. I don't have kids at home anymore, but I remember every year trying to decide the candy issues. Everyone knows that parents hate all the sugar. Everyone knows the kids love it. I think the dressing up part is creative and fun, so during the years our kids were home and trick or treating, we made some compromises that worked for us.

We live in a rural community, so finding people off the grid is easy. For those of you in town, you could still use the principle and find people that may not ordinarily get kids coming to their houses.

The week before Halloween we would sit down and make a list of people who wouldn't usually get a trick or treater. We have friends out in the woods who seldom had a guest. We would choose maybe 6-8 sites. Sometimes I would call ahead to warn then to have some treats, as they would be in shock the first time. Then my husband and I would put the kids in the car and make the trek to all the houses on the list. People were thrilled to have a visitor. Our kids felt like they had a special outing and the candy was minimized. Everyone was happy.
We marked the moment in kind of a different way and it was more meaningful to us than going into town and letting the kids roam the streets where they didn't know anyone. Be creative with your children. You will find what works for you and may limit the sugar content and even add something special to the holiday.
Happy trick or treating!
Paula


Monday, October 19, 2009

the J and J party - marking the moment

It's Monday morning. I think this will be my blogging day, so here we go.

I want to show you an example of marking the moment. This story hasn't happened yet, but it will and is inspired by the Julia and Julie movie.

When I mentioned in the first blog that a group of women saw the movie together, I neglected to mention that this group has been together as a women's study group for more than ten years. We had never seen a movie together in a theater, as we mostly study books meeting in our own homes. Two of our women have their birthdays in November and they are big ones this year - worthy of a celebration. About thirty years ago I gave Julia's cookbook to one of these gals as a gift. We are now going to refer to that book and design a 'Julie and Julia' party for our friends. We will use the recipes and dress in the 50's. This is the bones of the evening - I am sure more will unfold. We are planning on giving each birthday woman an amaryllis to watch grow through the holidays.
This particular celebration is like a theme party, capturing a moment in time that we shared with the movie and transposing it into our dinner gathering. As this blog emerges I will be offering more ideas for birthday celebrations with your friends and family - as well as holiday ideas that will help you move from commercial frenzy to a more basic giving from the heart. This birthday example is a fun way to get us started. I'll keep you posted as it happens - maybe even get a picture of our feast.


Friday, October 16, 2009

The Very First

Hello: My name is Paula Pugh. I am hoping we'll become acquainted as this blog unfolds. At the moment I want to tell you how I finally got the nerve to start this blog project. It is a kind of strange and funny story.

A couple of weeks ago, as I had been thinking about the blog, a group of women friends and I decided to go see the movie Julie and Julia. There were a couple of things about that movie that totally inspired me in finally move into action.



The first was when Julie started her own blog. She just sat down and started. I decided that was what I needed to do - just sit down and do it. The fact that no one even responded to hers for weeks was actually encouraging to me, because I felt that would give me time to get to hang of this commitment. Just about the time I was going to start. my computer went down for a week and a half - go figure! What did the universe have to tell me about this project? The computer is fixed and we are up and running. I even figured out how to add some sketches!



The second part of the movie that grabbed me was Julia's persistence with her book project. She didn't give up. She kept working on it until finally someone understood her passion and picked it up for publication.


I am inspired by her dedication as I have a book project underway that is taking a long time to find its proper expression. This blog is called Mark the Moment, which is the name of the project - a book to help people re-create holidays, birthdays, anniversaries and times in our lives when we need and want to celebration or acknowledgement a special occason As this blog continues, my intention is to show you what people have done in their lives to add meaning, not money, to their lives. Stories, like Julie and Julia's, inspire all of us to do our best, find our passions and act on them.


I am hoping that this blog will help you along the path. Together we will explore ways to express ourselves and honor our friends and family. My wish and dream is that this message will move out into the world enough so that we can share these moments.
As we get going in this informal way, I will tell you more about myself and begin to give you stories and observations about how all of us can add dimension to our lives by being leaders and innovators. Please share your stories, as together we will encourage ourselves and others to make our lives more connected and meaningful. As we move on, you will begin to understand more what this is about. Just stick with me.
We have now started - sometimes that is the hardest part.
Mark the Moment is officially launched!!!
Paula