Wednesday, February 24, 2010

Imprinting


I have missed a couple of blogging Mondays due to the birth of our 2nd granddaughter. Being part of a family lineage is a strong and inspiring happening. As I was thinking about creating meaningful moments for this event, I realized that "showing up" and "being present" were the gifts that I can offer our new Isa. We were invited by our daughter to come for the birth and help out with Isa's three year old sister.

I know that in the horse world when a human has early contact with a foal, the foal then knows the smell of the that human, who becomes a part of his world. Done intentionally the practice is called imprinting. I wanted to imprint Isa with my smell, the sound of my heart beat, the sound of my voice, the feel of my arms holding her. This is perhaps more a gift to me from her than my gift to her. We were working on a bonding that will last our lifetimes.

This may sound like a small thing, but it is huge. Taking the time to be with the family, as they adjust to the changes that a new member brings and offering encouragement and help, diminishes some of the anxiety of the transition. We grandparents, aunts and uncles, are given the task and luxury to be the chosen ones who can step to the plate and help out. The benefits come in the closeness that forms between individuals - the gap closing between the generations

I hope someday you will be lucky enough to be a grandparent or special auntie, so that you too can bond with a new being and become part of her world. Together you will explore the world and see what magic appears for you to share. In order to do that you must show up and be part of her life. All sorts of meaningful moments will appear just because you are there.

Monday, February 1, 2010

Hospice Cards


I love to make greeting cards. I collect interesting paper, ribbons, glue, scissors, blank cards with envelopes, a few stamps, and I am ready to create. I usually wait to make one so that I know who I am making it for, unless I am playing and experimenting with new techniques. I love the feeling of connecting with that special person when I work with my hands and heart to let the creative force come through my fingers.
Last week one of my women's group got together to make cards for our local hospice home. Each woman brought along materials to add to my collection. For several hours we chatted, worked, and thought about the people who go to die in the home, and the people who stay with them during this transition time. We hope that if the visitors feel the need to write that we have placed cards there for them to use. Our hearts feel connected to those going through a time of transition. They know that strangers are with them during this passage.

Making cards marks moments of several levels. With the group card making and giving them away, we are reaching a out to embrace people we don't know. Making an individual card for someone we know and care for takes the experience to a place of love connection.

Buying a card and posting it in the mail, emailing a little message, writing a letter - all these are tools for making a moment with people we care about. It doesn't take much time. It does take a bit of effort. We give from our hearts and show the love we feel for others. I encourage you to reconstruct this old fashioned tradition and see what happens to you in the giving end, and others who receive.
PS the card on the left say " From the fullness of the heart, the mouth speaks."
The card on the right says "It's not the lofty sail but the unseen wind that moves the ship."