Friday, March 26, 2010

Showing Up

I have been so busy getting ready to leave town for a week that I have hardly noticed anything going on around me - let alone any meaningful moments. My horse, Andy, and I are going away tomorrow for a barn vacation. I was given a grant by the United States Dressage Federation which allows me to ride with an instructor of my choice without the distractions of home and work - what a gift.

What does this have to do with marking a moment? At this point I feel that showing up is significant. Closing down my duties, packing the horse trailer, packing the camper, packing me and leaving have been keeping me busy with lists and more lists. It is such a big deal to get out of here that I was almost ready to bail, but I haven't. Instead I have chosen to show up at the appointed time and place and await the magic that will happen.

When you choose to show up for whatever occasion you feel is worthwhile, then you will be available for whatever happens. Believe me, you are there for a reason. Be aware of the moments when you are not sure what to do - to go or not to go. Trust your intuition to help guide you. When you think of significant times in your life, notice the ones where you have shown up and what that has meant to you and others - on many levels. Don't underestimate the importance of your presence. No one else can do what you do and be who you are.

Wednesday, March 17, 2010

celebrate NOW

Recently I ran into Marilyn at the post office. She had just attended a memorial service for a mutual friend. I had been unable to go, so asked Marilyn about it. She said it was great, except for the fact that our friend had passed on and wasn't there to to hear the stories and love poured out for her. That made Marilyn sad. She said we need to CELEBRATE NOW, before we are dead.

Her suggestion is to gather a group of like minded close friends and start a Celebration Group - pick a day once a year, choose a person still alive and celebrate her. If they started soon most everyone would get at least one round before they died.

After our encounter the thought stayed with me. Why do we wait for a person to die? Why don't we celebrate alive days for no other reason than to honor a special person? The alive person can help to plan what she wants, and her friends would help to make it happen. Stories of her past, her dreams, shared experiences, glimpses of who she is now, pictures of her in her youth, would be shared. What a delightful way to mark a moment - for no other reason than to honor a friend while she is still with us!

Tuesday, March 9, 2010

Oscar - the Academy Awards

The Academy Awards were presented on Sunday evening. Spectacular gowns and pencil thin women were the usual eye candy. Unusual was a woman winning in directing a film, some plus size women, and increasing ethnic diversity.

What really caught my imagination and marked the entire evening for me were the presenters for the Best Woman Actor and the Best Man Actor. I remember this happening last year and it was the best part of the evening then, and again this year.

If you didn't see the Academy Awards, this is what happened. When the time came to announce the nominees for Best Actor, and there were 5 nominees for men and 5 more for women, a colleague came onto the stage and talked about his/her nominee. Every presentation was different, heartfelt, personal and affirming. By the time these mini speeches were finished, I was nearly in tears hearing about the actors from their friends. I had the feeling that each person was a winner - even if they didn't receive an Oscar that night. The spotlight beamed with radiance on the actor during those moments as they received special tribute. I love the idea that all these gifted actors were given credit for a job well done - whether or not they won. It almost didn't matter after that.

The Academy marked the moment is a special way, because all were honored individually, even though there was just one Oscar given away. Go Academy!